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singinghorses said,
January 4, 2008 at 1:00 am
Because kids are too young to “reason.” They lack logical and abstract thinking until about age 10 depending on the child. A good whack gets the point across. Once they’re old enough it’s no longer necessary because you can sit them down and have a talk about their behavior. The trouble with some parents is they don’t mean what they say. They wait to discipline until after a behavior problem instead of anticipating one. Then they rely on empty threats which don’t work.
Cally Tyrol said,
January 4, 2008 at 2:46 am
I agree with you that young children do not yet possess the ability to reason, but there are certainly other consequences that are just as effective as a spanking if not more effective. My son has never been spanked. When he misbehaves, he receives an immediate consequence commensurate to his behavior. There are no empty threats. My son can trust that when he disobeys, he will receive a consequence. So far, this has been very effective for him. He’s pretty well-behaved and even better behaved than a number of spanked kids his age that we know.
My question is if an immediate consequence can be delivered that doesn’t involve intentionally inflicting physical pain but that still gets the point across, why inflict that physical pain? Because kids don’t have those reasoning skills, how can we expect them to differentiate between when a parent hits them and when a sibling hits them. Because the parent hugs them afterward and says “I did this because I love you”? A child doesn’t possess the ability to understand that the parent is doing this out of love. It just doesn’t add up to me.